- So, what is consent?
- How do I give or get consent?
- Signs consent hasn't been given
- It's ok to say no to sex
- Important things to remember
- Where to get help if an offence has been committed
Sexual consent means 'willing agreement'.
Making sure you get and give consent before having any kind of sex with another person (or people) really matters.
Consent should always be clear, so you must ensure you have it or have given it.
Sex is only sexy when it’s between two people who have given their consent.
Sex without consent is rape.
When you fancy someone and want to have sex, always check they want it too. If you are not sure - ask. They might tell you directly, or show you with their actions. For example:
- Looking at you, smiling and nodding
- Being relaxed and happy
- Being enthusiastic and responsive
- Telling you what they want
- Responding to you with their body, e.g. kissing you back and touching you
- Murmuring sweet nothings into your ear
If the person says any of these things or something similar - stop.
|‘No’||‘I don’t know’|
|‘I’m not sure’||‘Not now’|
|‘Get off’||‘Don’t do that’|
|‘I feel worried’||‘Do I have to?’|
If the person you want to have sex with shows any of these signs - don't have sex with them.
|Slurred speech||Passing out||Stillness|
|Incoherent talking||Sleeping||No eye contact|
|Resistance||No eye contact||Rigid or tense body|
|Crying||Frozen or frightened expression|
If it’s not your body, it’s not your decision. Make sure it's clear you have consent.
Having sex with another person, or people, is your choice. If you don't want to have sex with someone - you don't have to.
You may feel under pressure from your friends or someone you've just met who wants to have sex, but it's okay to say no to sex.
If you've said yes to sex, but then change your mind you can still say no to sex.
It's your body. It's your choice. Sex without consent is rape. No means NO.
Drinking together doesn't = sex later
Sex in the past doesn't = sex now
Flirting and kissing doesn't = sex too
No consent = no sex
Sex without consent is rape
Tea and consent
The animation is being used with permission by Thames Valley Police
If you’re still struggling with consent just imagine instead of initiating sex you’re making them a cup of tea.
Animation courtesy of Emmeline May at rockstardinosaurpirateprincess.com and Blue Seat Studios. Copyright © 2015 RockStarDinosaurPiratePrincess and Blue Seat Studios. Images are Copyright ©2015 Blue Seat Studios.