Why people pretend to be your friend

Some people pretend to be your friend because they want something from you.

They think you will not know that what they want is against the law.

Please scroll down the page to find out what pretend friends want.



Most friends really are friends. They like you, laugh with you and really care about you.

Friends help

They will do their very best to help you if you ask them to.

Friends do things together

They will like doing the things that you like doing and will enjoy your company.

Ask you forcefully

Friends will not say we are mates and so you have to...

Friends will not ask you to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable or scared.

Mate Crimes are bad things people do when they pretend to be your friend.

Its the law

Mate Crime is against the law


What they do or ask you to do can get you in trouble with the police.

Stop benefits

Or it could mean the government will stop your benefits.

Don't like

Mate Crime is when someone says they are your friend and then they make you to do something you don't want to.


Mate crime does not start with bullying but it can become bullying.

It starts with people saying they are your friends.


And then - "We are mates, and mates help each other, so can you..."
or "We are friends, friends let each other..."

Examples of what might be a Mate Crime

overdue phone bill

A pretend friend uses your phone until you have very little credit left.

Stealing money

A pretend friend borrows your money and does not pay you back.

Using your computer to view porn

A pretend friend uses your computer to look at websites you don't like.

Keep out

A pretend friend comes to your house and pushes past you to come in and does not leave when you ask them to.


A pretend friend does things in your house that you don't like.

Cuckooing is a new crime and it is when someone uses your house to carry out their drug business.

Smoking cannabis

The pretend friend sells drugs from your house.

Drugs - pills

The pretend friend makes or grows drugs at your house.

Drugs - white powder

The pretend friend hides drugs at your house.

Eating round a table

The pretend friend invites their friends to your house and eats your food.

Gun and a knife

The pretend friend asks you to look after something that could be a knife or gun

If any of these things happen to you, you have been a victim of crime

A bag being snatched by a man in a hoodie

Not every crime involves murder, stealing or hitting.


If this is happening to you, please tell someone, please tell the police.

If you are a victim of Mate Crime tell someone


You do not have to put up with it.

If you tell someone you won't get into trouble.

Speak up

If you tell someone they can help.

You can tell to a third party reporting centre

My area

A third party reporting centre is a place you can go to tell someone about a crime, that is not a police station.

Day centre

Different areas have different third party reporting centres.

The ones in your area could be your day centre or gateway club.

Citizens advice

Your local citizens advice bureau.


Your council or the adult social care learning disability team.

Devon Linkup

If you live in Devon you could also tell Devon Link up on 07808 053992.

Cornish People First

If you live in Cornwall you could also tell Cornwall People First on 01736 334857.

Dorset People First

If you live in Dorset you could tell Dorset People First on 01305 257 600.

Tell another friend, case worker or family member

Tell a friend

If you have been a victim of Mate Crime but you do not feel like you can speak to a stranger about it, you can tell your case worker, another friend or family member.

Tell the police

They can support you to go to the police or phone a helpline.


Or if you do not want to report the crime, they can help you deal with what has happened and help you to stay safe in the future.

Always tell the Police if people say they are your friends but make you feel scared.

Always tell the police if someone is using your home to sell, make or grow drugs in.

The word Police on the back of a police officers jacket

A police woman writting down information a woman is telling her

For information on how to contact the contact please select this Contact the police link.

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